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Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 10598 Location: East Yorkshire, England
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 12:57 pm Post subject: Fostering Family |
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A friend of mine, I'll call her Rachel for this post, is in a very tricky situation. Her daughter has a 6 year old son whom her daughter cannot look after anymore for various reasons. Now Rachel has her own small place and her own life. She's not overly keen on children and does not want to take responsibility on but she cannot bare the thought of her 6 year old grandson going into care, which is the only other option.
I was thinking about this last night, if my boyfriend's brother or sister were unable to look after their kids, would I take them on?
So my question to you, would you foster a family member (niece, nephew, cousin etc) if their parents were unable to look after them? _________________ Helen, the Administratrix of www.area51newmexico.com
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Joined: 05 Jul 2006 Posts: 7651 Location: To the right of my computer
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 1:43 pm Post subject: |
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Same story has happened with someone else I know.
She is very anti kids, but she got a boyfriend who she eventually moved in, now he comes with a few kids who are all still children and for various reasons can no longer live with their real mother, and so he has turned to her and said these are my children I came as a package deal I want to move my children in, and so they have.
When you take someone on, you don't just take them on, you take their children on as well.
When it's a family member, you don't really get much of a choice. So that now falls to the the basic question, 'Can you take on someone else's children?'
The fact they are family is irrelevant, you still have to put up with someone else's children. Just because they are family does not make them any easier to deal with. They are still children who are going to piss you off and make your life hell.
What if you work odd hours? - how's that going to sit with babysitting duties? - what if you're working through the day, don't get home till late just want to go to bed and have to deal with a noisy vomiting shit fountain ?
Maybe perhaps, if Rachel could talk her worries about foster care over with someone more knowledgeable on such subjects she'll have a more informed opinion?
Someone like http://www.thefca.co.uk/
If they aren't the best people to speak to, i'm sure they'll know who is.
Some links ( which may or may not prove useful )
Will fostering affect my child?
http://www.thefca.co.uk/my_children.php
Can I become a carer?
http://www.thefca.co.uk/becoming_a_carerb.php
What support will I receive?
http://www.thefca.co.uk/fca_support.php
FAQs
http://www.thefca.co.uk/20questions.php
For the record, no I couldn't. _________________ I should update my sig. What to put here for $CurrentYear ? |
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