Carebear needs to stop smoking

BritishKid · Veteran Contributer Joined: 25 Jan 2007 Posts: 271

Claire keeps smoking telling me she's gonna quit but she doesn't who thinks she should if yes why and if no why
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carebear · Valued Contributer Joined: 17 May 2007 Posts: 142

can't stop it's my life
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BritishKid · Veteran Contributer Joined: 25 Jan 2007 Posts: 271

whoops s'pose to be in general chat if can can sum1 move it? pleases and thank yous
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Skorpz · Forum Ace & Best Noob 2007 Joined: 04 May 2007 Posts: 1396

Smoking has never been good and never will be, it's a waste of money and you're better off saving it for something else instead of paying to kill yourself.
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Lamiaceae · Posted: Wed Sep 12, 2007 5:38 pm Post subject:

I can see this thread being a good one

Anyway, as for your question.

You can do as many polls as you like, you can ask her to stop smoking, you can tell her to stop smoking, but this will fall on deaf ears.

Yes, you only have her health in mind, and any smoker will tell you what a filthy habit smoking is.

You can tell her all the facts and figures, you can tell her what happens, you can explain that her lungs will eventually turn to mush, or she'll end up breathing through a hole in her throat and she'll have the wrinkly skin of an 85 year old when she's 40, but she's not listening.

Smokers get through by not listening to what they don't like the sounds of. They know it's not good for them, but they tend not to think about the damage they are doing, they live in hope that 'it'll never happen to them'

To give up smoking, the smoker does actually have to want to give up. So while this thread is a good idea in showing you are right, and she is wrong ( yet again eh Wink

) it is as futile as trying to put resistance up against the borg.

I had an ex girlfriend who smoked, and despite me trying to get her to stop, she never did. It was always going to be, tomorrow, next week, christmas, new year, easter.

I was on a night out once with her and her friends, and she went to kiss me, I smelt that she had been smoking, and I said that 'her breath stank of shit' to her face.

She looked shocked and very hurt, ( women can't handle the truth it seemed) but she did what women do and went to moan to her friends that her evil evil boyfriend wouldn't kiss her, her friends on that night out, who were all non smokers themselves, didn't give the correct response that she wanted, and sulked for the rest of the night and the day after as well.

She still smokes to this day. When we split up, she got with one of my friends, and became pregnant ( that's a whole other story) we all know the dangers of smoking while pregnant, but she continued to do so, right through out the 9 months. She's now on her second pregnancy, and smoking still. Then she'll call herself a good mother.

If Claire really wants to give up though have a look into this book
Allen Carr's Easy way to stop smoking - I'm not a smoker, so I have no idea how good this book is, but I know a lot of smokers who've raved about it in the past.

£6.99 delivered - so it's less than a tenner

Now, after all that - i'm voting that she should stop smoking however
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Kemo · Posted: Thu Sep 13, 2007 2:43 am Post subject:

aalpha · Posted: Thu Sep 13, 2007 3:50 am Post subject:

I stopped. If I can anyone can. I did have help I won't deny it. I used every ounce of will power and failed every time. One day I saw an ad in the paper. Dr. Jed Rose who developed the nicotine patch was experimenting with the patch and a small dose of blood pressure medicine. One medium would turn off some "neuro-triggers" while the other one turned off others. Neither one impacted all the neuro-triggers. His premise was that nicotine is as much psychologically addictive as it is physically addictive. Neuro-triggers are the mental circumstances that makes a cigarette worth selling your soul for. While getting ready for a hot bath/shower, after a big meal, while working on your hobby, after sex, while watering your plants and so on.

When I started the program it was as if I was a computer with a sound card, video card, and a smoking card. The smoking card was pulled and smoking ceased to happen. When I quit, the only time I thought about a cigarette was when I realized how long I had been without one. No withdrawal, no fits, no nothing. The smoking card had been unplugged.

Carebear, you must know smoking is not good for you. If you have the smallest shred of desire to quit, you can. It does not have to be unpleasant to quit and you really don't have to gain weight. You may have to change some habits to keep from gaining weight but you can control most of it to a high degree.

Please stop smoking. Smile

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carebear · Valued Contributer Joined: 17 May 2007 Posts: 142

im really hooked on it though and when i get stressed i need sumfin to calm my nerves
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carebear · Valued Contributer Joined: 17 May 2007 Posts: 142

it is really hard, i have tried many times. it also doesn' when both of your parents smoke as well
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area51newmexico · Posted: Thu Sep 13, 2007 11:43 am Post subject:

carebear · Valued Contributer Joined: 17 May 2007 Posts: 142

true but i cnt help it, when i need a fag i mean i need a fag. both parents of mine smoke, most of my family do as well so it doesn't help either. and Matthew cnt reali talk because he used to smoke as well. and his parents do, so dnt you all think it is a little harder for me.
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area51newmexico · Posted: Thu Sep 13, 2007 12:05 pm Post subject:

But it's not impossible. My boyfriend quit for many years; his mother, father, brother, sister and most of friends do still smoke. His mother has now stopped smoking as she got emphysema(sp) and was physically too ill to smoke. She still has it but it is slightly better that "a living hell" that she was before. It's still not very pleasant to watch though.

Did I mention the money side of quitting smoking?
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Lamiaceae · Posted: Thu Sep 13, 2007 9:33 pm Post subject:

carebear · Valued Contributer Joined: 17 May 2007 Posts: 142

i no but people are always hassling me to quit but i cnt help it because everytime i need a fag i get stopped by matthew
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carebear · Valued Contributer Joined: 17 May 2007 Posts: 142

about a hundred times helen
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