Which would you prefer?

[Lamiaceae]

I have wondered about this question for a bit, just wondering what you think

Would you prefer to be 'quietly forgotten' after your death, or 'hatefully remembered?'
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[aalpha]

I had to say "Other" since I would prefer to be woefully missed and revered for a generation of two. **slap** What's is wrong with you?!?!?
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[area51newmexico]

I was in too minds about this one but being "quietly forgotten" won over being hated for the rest of eternity. I know it "doesn't really matter" when you're dead what people think about you but it's not as if you can change it and I wouldn't like my remaining family to have to put up with bad thoughts.
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[Lamiaceae]

Well, when I was first asked this question, I pictured 'hatefully remembered' as being something like an antihero. I don't know why, maybe it's me automatically (read subconsciously) trying to put macabre questions into the best light I can.

Anyway, after answering that question to myself I soon forgot it. It's only recently that this question surfaced in my head again...

Why? - well... this guy is someone who will be 'hatefully' remembered for the rest of time. It was only then that I realised the 'other' meaning of the sentence 'hatefully remembered' - I soon changed my answer to the what Helen has said. Quietly forgotten.

I'm sure we all would want to be 'remembered' - but that's obvious, and therefore isn't an option.
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[Shangas]

I remember reading something which went a bit like:

"When you were born you were screaming and crying and everyone else around you was smiling. When you die, smile as much as you can and let everyone else around you do the screaming and crying for you".
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[tafkao]

I imagine that if I publish my autobiography, a few people will go " ah ha", quite a few people who recognise themselves in it will be really pissed off, my kids will me resent saying unflattering truths about their mother.

If my novels work as well as I hope, an unintended but unavoidable consequence would be that up to 1.5 billion people will hate my pseudonym, but I will have taken pains for them not to know my true identity.

So in dollar terms, being hated probably represents my best chance of being remembered at all as well as leaving a decent inheritance for my kids. If they miraculously become obscenely rich, everyone will assume my family left them a larger slice of the overall family fortune than expected, and that's fine by me.

My kids will know I became an object of hatred for their benefit, and that's all that counts. It's true, the idea of writing books came from being disappointed that I couldn't build up a fortune for them from within the family business by reason of being 'an imbecile or a lunatic', to quote the Company's Articles of Association. They used to talk like that when the Company was formed 146 years ago.

So many autobiography titles to choose from

"An Imbecile or a Lunatic" is one, as is The Dark Side of the Moon, Fuck You Very Much, Harm Minimisation or Double Down. I'll probably think of something intricately interlaced with the (un)reality of the situation that just hasn't come yet.